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Why Do Men Keep Putting Me In The Girlfriend-Zone?

Tue, 21 May 2013 12:31:00 -0600

You know how it is, right, ladies? You know a guy for a while. You hang out with him. You do fun things with him—play video games, watch movies, go hiking, go to concerts. You invite him to your parties. You listen to his problems. You do all this because you think he wants to be your friend.

But then, then comes the fateful moment where you find out that all this time, he’s only seen you as a potential girlfriend. And then if you turn him down, he may never speak to you again. This has happened to me time after time: I hit it off with a guy, and, for all that I’ve been burned in the past, I start to think that this one might actually care about me as a person. And then he asks me on a date.

I tell him how much I enjoy his company, how much I value his friendship. I tell him that I really want to be his friend and to continue hanging out with him and talking about our favorite books or exploring new restaurants or making fun of avant-garde theatre productions. But he rejects me. He doesn’t answer my calls or e-mails; if we’d been making plans to do something before this fateful incident, these plans mysteriously fail to materialize. (This is why I never did get around to seeing the Hunger Games movie. Not to name any names, but thanks a lot, Tom.) Later, when I run into him at social events, our conversations are awkward and lukewarm. This is because the moment we met, he put me in the girlfriend-zone, and now he can’t see me as friend material.

I must say that I find this really unfair. I mean, I’m a nice girl. I have a lot to offer as a friend, like not being a douchebag and stuff. But males just don’t want to be friends with nice girls like me. They can’t help it, I guess; it’s just how they’re wired, biologically. Evolution conditioned our male hominid ancestors to seek nice girls as mates and form friendship bonds only with the other dudes that they hunted mammoths with. It’s true—I know this because I studied hominids in my fifth-grade science class.

So what’s the answer? Should I take up mammoth-hunting in an attempt to appeal to the friendship centers of men’s primal lizardbrains? Should I keep making guy “friends” and then prevent them from making a move on me by subtly undermining their self-confidence? Should I just give up on those manipulative, game-playing, two-faced bastards once and for all? I don’t know. I mean, I’d really like to have a true friendship with a guy someday, but it’s so hard to trust and respect them when they never say what they mean—and you never know when you might be relegated to the girlfriend-zone.

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Sat, 18 May 2013 20:36:40 -0600

babytitty: bloody hell Tim bangs8 voice

Sat, 18 May 2013 17:12:38 -0600

babytitty:

bloody hell *Tim bangs8 voice*

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Sat, 18 May 2013 13:48:25 -0600

A Workout For Book Nerds

Sat, 18 May 2013 10:24:27 -0600

epicreads:

All you need for this workout is a stack of hardcovers and some yarn or rope to tie them together!

Workout #1: The Book Curl

Workout #2: The Book Up

Workout #3: The Brunch (Book Crunch) - Just like brunch this can be done alone or with a friend!

Cool Down

whoneedsfeminism: I need feminism because yesterday as I was...

Sat, 18 May 2013 10:17:51 -0600

whoneedsfeminism:

I need feminism because yesterday as I was facilitating a relay race, an 8 year old boy look me in the eye and told me that the only reason I could tell him what to do is because I’m older than him, and if he were my age, he’d be faster and smarter than me because women are weak and men are better than women. Word for word.

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Sat, 18 May 2013 05:22:47 -0600

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Fri, 17 May 2013 11:45:55 -0600

The advantages and disadvantages of working out at the gym at work..

Thu, 16 May 2013 21:24:00 -0600

As I’m doing jumping lunges a physical therapist yells across the gym ‘KEEP THAT KNEE FROM GOING IN!.. I’M WATCHING YOOOU…’

(via Bodybuilding.com - Body Transformation: Jen Jewell’s...

Wed, 15 May 2013 17:12:47 -0600

(via Bodybuilding.com - Body Transformation: Jen Jewell’s Road To Pro)

littlelover91: The Better Sex Workout

Wed, 15 May 2013 13:48:26 -0600

littlelover91:

The Better Sex Workout

25andfit: 17 Explosive Bodyweight Exercises for Strength and...

Wed, 15 May 2013 10:24:19 -0600

25andfit:

17 Explosive Bodyweight Exercises for Strength and Speed

dailyfitnessgirls: Fitness Girls

Tue, 14 May 2013 20:36:44 -0600

dailyfitnessgirls:

Fitness Girls

nice-ice-baby: Chun Li

Tue, 14 May 2013 17:12:30 -0600

nice-ice-baby:

Chun Li

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Tue, 14 May 2013 13:48:17 -0600

whoneedsfeminism: I need feminism because I’m a guy who can...

Tue, 14 May 2013 10:24:31 -0600

whoneedsfeminism:

I need feminism because I’m a guy who can ROCK a skirt and someday, I’d like to wear one out without ridicule.

myelvenkingdom: Yesterday’s look! For some reason this just...

Mon, 13 May 2013 20:36:51 -0600

myelvenkingdom:

Yesterday’s look!
For some reason this just happened. Impulsive craziness.
A light coat of mascara I thought - but noooo… ;)

I’ve glued dried twigs IN my eyebrows, attached them to my hair, made a completely new hairline with leftover hair which I keep after I cut my bangs (I’m a freak, teehee), and dug up some pretty big, black lenses.

I really liked this look, and may just tone it down a bit for daily wear ;)

buffyshot: myrissa_joy

Mon, 13 May 2013 17:12:34 -0600

buffyshot:

myrissa_joy

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Mon, 13 May 2013 13:48:35 -0600

Disney Princess Makeover Sparks Outrage: Merida Petition Goes Viral

Mon, 13 May 2013 10:24:31 -0600

Disney Princess Makeover Sparks Outrage: Merida Petition Goes Viral:

quixoticandabsurd:

Oh god. It’s awful. It’s so awful.